Hiring Your St. Cloud Couples’ Therapy Counselor
In order for you to best choose your St. Cloud couples’ therapy counselor, it is vital to know how he or she works with marriages and committed romantic partnerships. This page tells you how I do couples’ counseling therapy in the St. Cloud area. You can expect me to be curious and interested in each of you as unique individuals, as well as what it has been like for the two of you as a couple. At one point, you liked and loved each other enough to become a couple and perhaps get married, or even have children together. Did something change for one of you, both of you, or are there underlying issues all along that became more problematic over time?
What Caused Your Marriage to Suffer?
For most couples, there are many factors involved – with some quite major and some quite minor (but still frustrating). You may be painfully aware of many of those difficulties. Other contributing factors may be hidden from you and your partner but will become apparent within the marriage counseling therapy sessions.
Until the two of you really understand what is going on internally within yourself and within the mind of your partner, and how this manifests in your communication and interactions together, making your relationship better, long-term, may stay out of reach. My first job, as your couples counselor & therapist, is to help you both gain the insights required to understand what is really happening within the two of you.
Learn to Improve Your Marriage, Significant Other, or Fiancee Relationship in Counseling
With this understanding you, your partner, fiancée or spouse can try on new ways of thinking and take new actions that will move you both forward to a place of relationship renewal. And this is my second job… to give you remedies for your specific difficulties. In each session, I will teach you communication tools that will enhance how you talk and relate with each other. Those communication tools will be tailored to you and your wife, husband, and mate.
Is Your Marriage Counseling Therapist Staying Neutral?
My last job as your couples’ counselor therapist is to stay neutral and not take sides. Instead, I hope to help you and your husband, wife or married partner to hear, understand, respect and appreciate each other’s perspective. How to remain neutral may not be easy. Often one or the other of you will have a healthier perspective on some issue.
None the less, I will be neutral overall, even if at times one of you might have an important point that the other has not yet understood or fully appreciated. My role does not involve picking sides. Instead, my role is to help you both to raise your insight into yourselves, your partner, your relationship. Part of your work involves learning how your words and actions have contributed to the discontent that you are both experiencing. And in addition to understanding, you will learn more optimal ways to communicate with each other. Doing so can lead to greater happiness with each other and your committed relationship.
In summary, I will do my best to understand your present difficulties within the entire life of your relationship, including the times when you were getting along well together. If you want to move towards feeling kind, being attracted to your mate, and loving with each other again, I will do my best to help you find your way back to happiness with each other.
Is Richard Chandler, MA, LPC, the Best St. Cloud, MN Couples’ Therapy Counselor for You?
This may be hard to know without a little more direct contact with me. That is why we offer a free brief phone consultation. You can simply email, call or text to set this up. Below please find my credentials and other information that may be of help in answering this question for you and your partner:
I Studied Marriage and Family Therapy & Professional Clinical Counseling
Although I am older, I graduated in the spring of 2015 from Adler Graduate School in Bloomington, MN with all of the underlying coursework to be licensed in both Marriage and Family Therapy and in Professional Clinical Counseling.
This took almost another full year to complete, but it gave me very comprehensive training in the psychology of relationships. My schooling is more recent and up to date. It included specific training in Adlerian Psychology, which is a holistic approach in which we learn that our individual mental health is embedded within our relationships with family and our romantic partner, within our community, our work, our spirituality, and in the ways in which we achieve balance through self-care and our hobbies.
My St. Cloud, MN Practice Focus is Marriage Therapy & Couples Counseling
By far, the majority of my counseling sessions have been with couples or with individuals who need assistance in how they can heal, learn to trust, and grow after a breakdown in their romantic relationship due to an affair, or other forms of infidelity such as inappropriate texting, chatting or even financial infidelity.
Compassionate, Non-judgemental Listening is a Major Counseling Strength
I do my best to give complete attention to St. Cloud couples therapy clients. This can be challenging at times in couples therapy, as sometimes while a wife is talking, her husband will be shaking his head. The husband may be speaking, but his wife is communicating non-verbally that she is disagreeing with what he is saying. Even so, I do my best to model and teach, kind, active listening, where each person does their best not to interrupt the other by words or distracting non-verbal behavior. Our Chandler Counseling & Consulting Facebook Page is devoted to tips for couples to improve their communications and their love relationship.
You Will Learn, and Be Encouraged to Try Out, New Skills with Each Other
Yes… I give homework! It is not enough to gain insight only. To be successful in growing and doing better with your relationship, you must learn and get better at the skills of compassionate communication. I will encourage you to dramatically increase your words of kindness and appreciation and your acts of kindness towards each other. I will also encourage you to go on dates, trips and do the kinds of romantic things that perhaps got you together in the first place.
My Personal Background Provides Insights into Marriage & Couples Counseling
My wife of over 2 decades, Bonnett Chandler, MA, is also a psychotherapist who primarily works with children and families. My own children, from a previous marriage, have been adults for many years. I personally and professionally understand the complexities and pain of separation, divorce and the challenges of step-parenting and working with blended families.
Take the 1st Step for Saving Your Marriage or Romantic Partnership
Simply email, text or call me at 320-223-9481 for a complimentary consult. Sometimes it is hard to know if it is best to come in for the first session together, or for you to begin without your partner. We can have a short exchange by email, text or by phone to talk about your situation, answer your questions about what it might be like to work together and decide the best way for you to begin. There is no charge for a short discussion about your relationship and how working with me as your St. Cloud couples’ therapy counselor might improve it. After talking, if it does not appear that working together is the best fit for either of us, I will give you the names of other marriage therapists who could be a better match.
Richard Chandler, MA, LPC (Masters in Adlerian Counseling and Psychotherapy, Licensed Professional Counselor)