Embracing the Perspective of Your Wife, Husband or Romantic Partner
An essential skill in getting along, and being happy with each other, in a committed love relationship is seeing and feeling what life is like from the perspective of your mate. This is not easy to do. We all default to our own perspective and way of seeing and experiencing the world. Yet, by embracing these 4 couples communication tips on perspective, you will begin to feel more empathy and alignment with your husband, wife or romantic partner.
1st Take Responsibility for Your Perspective When Communicating:
Simply declaring something implies “this is the way it is,” leaving less room for your partner to have a differing point of view. Softening words of introduction, like “What I have noticed about ______________________,” or “My understanding is _____________________,” makes it easier for your mate to feel OK about have noticing or understanding things differently than you.
2nd, Seek to understand and appreciate your partner’s differing perspective:
Use neutral, open-ended questions to begin. Like a journalist, also use follow-up questions to draw out just what he or she understands, and why. Doing so goes a long way to help your partner feel really understood, even if the two of you do not at first see something the same way o ultimately agree.
3rd, Embrace Differing Perspectives Equally; Yours is No Better or Worse than Your Partner’s:
Equality must continually exist for romantic partnerships to thrive. So it is OK that you may not always see things the same way, as long as you find ways to meet in the middle, or agree to disagree, with respect and appreciation for your spouse’s differing perspective.
4th, Be Willing to be Influenced by your Partner’s Way:
Try out his or her mindset and manner of seeing, hearing and feeling the world. Doing so increases your flexibility, helping you grow in wisdom, and in your ability to get along even better with your husband, wife as well as all others.
These 4 tips will serve you and your mate, whatever your situation, and will be especially helpful if you have been having the kind of difficulties that motivate you to seek out marriage therapy couples counseling in St. Cloud and Central Minnesota.